Essay - Practical Book Review Reflections on James C. Peterson's Why Don't...

Copyright Notice

Practical Book Review

Reflections on James C. Peterson's Why Don't We Listen Better? Communicating and Connecting in Relationships

Introduction: "Hey, that's not what I meant!" Using ***** C. ***** 'talker-listener' card to engage in productive dialogue

Of course, ***** know how ***** communicate—I ***** how to talk, and I can hear everyth*****g people say to me, what more do I need to do? Why do I need to read a book, in isolation, in the privacy of my study that attempts to tell me how I should communicate with others? However, individuals who have such a reaction to the title of ***** Don't We Listen Better? *****ommunicating ***** ***** in Relationships by James C. Petersen (2007) should remember ***** there is a difference between listening and hearing, ***** really engaging with ***** in meaningful communication versus simply exchanging words. Peterson's text attempts ***** give the reader effective strategies to improve personal communication processes. His approach can be useful to pastors, counselors, teachers, or simply everyone involved in a rel*****tionship who wants to ***** his or her ***** skills.

The book begins by examining why communication processes so often go awry. One of the core concepts ***** the work is that the ***** emotional people are, ***** the more emotionally attached they are to a p*****rticular point of view, the harder it is for them to listen. Their listening capability, if not their hearing capability shuts down. Peterson calls this the 'flat brain *****ory' of listening, w*****e stomachs are in overload, filled with ego rather than openness. This causes hearts grow bricklike and unresponsive to the emotional appeals ***** others. The courtroom process of adversarial interaction rather than a ***** negotiation of common *****s ***** the primary paradigm of our modern culture. While courtroom battles may look like win-lose, they are in reality lose-lose. ***** the courtroom approach is counterproductive ***** our usual, ***** goal when communicating. *****n everyday life our primary goal ***** not to be victors over others, but friends ***** our neighbors, loved ones, ***** colleagues. Reducing ***** disturbances, clarifying thinking, increasing self-confidence, and building supportive friendships ***** all essential to counteract our fallible and all-too-human tendency to fall in***** negative cultural and personal patterns ***** relating to others. Becoming a good listener reduces conflict and also makes us better s*****rytellers ***** better people

Peterson offers what he calls the ***** card or a kind of im*****ginary or invisible third person, a medi*****tor to initiate ***** ***** division. Playing ***** the rules ***** the conversational game, taking turns, and not ***** in a war like street fighters all ensure that ***** ***** engaged ***** the communicative process are listening as well ***** talking. Peterson makes communication into a very liter*****l *****, with accessories as well as rules. During his ********** *****shops, he takes manila cards and writes the word 'talker' ***** 'listener' on either side. This creates a sense of role-play to conversation—one person is ***** fixed in a singular role of listening or talking, which often results


Download complete paper (and others like it)    |    Order a brand new, custom-written paper

© 2001–2016   |   Dissertations about Practical Book Review Reflections on James C. Peterson's Why Don't   |   Essay Example