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Academic Integrity Seminar Term Paper

… Academic Integrity

I do not believe that it is in the best interest of businesses to be dishonest in any way. It therefore also follows that I do not believe any business or leader who pursues a path of honesty… [read more]

Everyday Use by A. Walker Essay

… During this time in history, there was very little or only secretive interracial dating, yet Dee arrives with a more than willing attitude to show off her new boyfriend, yet like most parents in those days, they did not tolerate… [read more]

Defining Love Essay

… ¶ … Love

Despite being the frequent subject of literature and film, actually defining the concept of love has remained a somewhat difficult task, especially because some would argue that the concept itself resists precise definition. Of course, there individual… [read more]

Young Americans Any Consideration of Their Cultural Term Paper

… ¶ … young Americans any consideration of their cultural background is deemed irrelevant to their daily lives. Having been a part of American culture for several generations, they look beyond themselves as being purely American and being unaffected by the… [read more]

America: A Semi-Structured Interview Case Study

… Question No. 12:

Do you like Americans?


Just the ones that tip me good! [laughs] I'm just kidding, but that's a good question. My friends and I talk about this all of the time. Let me be honest here. We don't like all Americans but like Pakistan, there are hundreds of millions of people in the United States. But I know what you mean. Yes,

we like Americans and most things American, but some things bother us and a few things anger us.

Question No. 13:

Can you provide me with some examples?


Well, there are some of the obvious ones like people staring at you or insulting you because of the way you look. No one likes that, of course, but I'm not here to blow anything up, I'm just here to go to school and try to live my life as best as I can.

Question No. 14:

Can you provide me with some examples of the less obvious ones?


It's hard to put into words. Well, one example is the amount that people tip me compared to our American drivers. On a good night, I can make

about $75 in tips but some of the other drivers tell me they make twice that. I don't know if they're just kidding me or not, but I work just as hard as they do. Also, it's the look that some people give me -- it's like they hate me already and they don't even know me. That's weird and it bothers

me. My friends tell me the same type of thing happens to them all of the time too.

Question No. 15:

Do you intend to return to Pakistan after you graduate?


That depends. I've been wanting to go back to visit my parents because my father is ill but I haven't been able to afford it. I don't think I'll go back to Pakistan to live after I graduate though.

Question 16:

Will you remain in the United States after you graduate?


[laughs] I guess that's up to immigration. I'm not sure, really. I've been thinking about the Netherlands or the UAE since there is a big demand for engineers there right now.

Synopsis of Interview with Mr. Hadi

Mr. Mohammed "Mo" Hadi is a single, 25-year-old engineering student attending a midwestern college in the United States. The results of the semi-structured interview showed that Mr. Hadi has largely successfully assimilated into his new environment and he is comfortable with his situation. Although Mr. Hadi continues to practice his religion, he reported that life in the United States offered several temptations that violated his religious strictures and that he would continue this lifestyle for awhile. At some point in his life, Mr. Hadi indicated that he would "clean up his act" and perform the religious pilgrimage to Mecca. Mr. Hadi also evinced a great deal of pride in his culture and country of origin, but he was also enamored of life in the… [read more]

Demos-Commonwealth "A Little Commonwealth: Family Essay

… He cites several examples to support his findings. For example, women were allowed the right to articulate various contracts much like modern day pre-nuptial agreements, wherein a widow and a new husband would discuss and contractually agree to future dispensation… [read more]

Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet Essay

… Pain and Joy of Love in Romeo and Juliet

William Shakespeare knew a few things about people and a few things about life as well. One play that demonstrates his astute powers of observation is Romeo and Juliet, where he… [read more]

Celestina, Frank, and Nicholas Case Study

… Celestina, Frank, And Nicholas

Discuss the interplay of the biological, psychological and social aspects related to human development (e.g. biological and physical growth and maturation; language and cognitive development; mental health conditions and medical conditions; etc.).

It is reasonable to… [read more]

Children Are Impacted by Divorce Annotated Bibliography

… ¶ … children are impacted by divorce: Are there any particular preventative steps or recommendations that can be implemented to stymie the potential negative impact and enduring consequence of divorce on children.

Annotated Bibliography

Lansford, J.E. (2009). Parental divorce and children's adjustment Perspectives on Psychological Science, 4 140-152

The impact of divorce must be seen in both its short-term and long-term context. The author reviews the associations between divorce and children's adjustment in both a long-term and short-term context. The author first considers evidence regarding how divorce impact the child's externalizing behavior, her internalizing behavior, academic achievements, and social relationships. Secondly, she examines relevant characteristics associated with divorce such as timing of the divorce, demographic characteristics, stigmatization as consequence of the divorce, and child's adjustment and status of family life (socio-economic and emotional stability) prior to the divorce. Thirdly, the author investigates socio-economic status of family, parental conflict before and following divorce, quality of parenting before and following divorce, and parents emotional and physical well-being as mediators of divorce and the child's adjustment. Author proceeds to note the limitations of the research literature before concluding with policies that are related to grounds for divorce, child support and child custody and the possible impacts of these policies on children's adjustment to parental divorce. The thoroughness of this review study makes it valuable for my research question.

2. Potter, D. (2010). Psychosocial Well-Being and the Relationship between Divorce and Children Journal of Marriage and Family, 72, p933-946

The author proceeds by noting the huge quantity of studies that focus on explanations for the consequences that impact children following divorce. Explanations for negative consequence following…… [read more]

Culture of the Huaorani of Ecuador Research Paper

… ¶ … Western contact with one of the last societies to remain isolated within the environment in which their culture developed, the Huaorani of northeastern Ecuador. I then synthesize the conclusion that cultural primary subsistence mode affects economic, gender and… [read more]

Iroquois Kinship System Essay

… The economy is said to be affluent when either there are abundance of resources available or either the needs or desires of its people are limited in which the available resources are left in abundance. The Iroquois have limited needs and wants for which they don't have to over work themselves and can spare leisure time very conveniently.

Comparison with modern society: When compared to our modern society, we face conflicting issues of needs or wants and purchasing power. We have all sort of facility with an advanced technology and better comforts for which we have to work extra time to earn these luxuries which have now became the necessities of our lives.

Concept of shelter and living

The foraging population and settlement is determined by the environmental patterns and their dwelling is not permanent, mostly depending on their earning and living season. Whereas, horticulturalist have comparatively permanent dwelling lasting at least for a couple of seasons till natural hazards make them apart from the land. Btsisi' are an example of a semi-sedentary society. Mostly foraging communities are mobile. Seasonal fluctuation affects the availability of local plants and animals, consequently affects the people living on the plants and animals. Therefore, foragers must move frequently in search of food and water. Shelters are not permanent; these are made from hay, plant, bamboo and other temporary materials such as camps and are in use as long as required. These camps can be used by someone else when one particular family work has accomplished

Compared with modern society:- modern living is based on well organized and constructed housing societies for which dwellers have to pay heavy amounts depending on the localities. The cost of shifting is therefore high and people have to make wise choices when shifting place.

Family formation

In general, both cultures believe in the family living together with their parents, siblings and children. The marriages are generally allowed in the cross cousins but not in the parallel ones and are set by the head of the family or parents but now, gradually, this notion is also changing. When they move to different places they don't break their family system rather prefer to live together wherever they decide to reside. Women are given equal importance in the family structure and decision making power for her knowledge and skills in hunting food and producing the same. The headmen status is therefore not just limited to the male of the family.

Comparison with the modern society:- There is a general practice in the society to live a separate life after marriage or even after graduation. The family structure, therefore, has been the form of distributed family structure where parents are generally living separate from their children and grand children.


Haviland, W., Prins, H., McBride, B. And Walrath, D. (2008). Cultural Anthropology: The Human Challenge. Wadsworth Publishing

Wallace, A.F. And Atkins, J. (1960). The Meaning of Kinship Terms. American Anthropologist,…… [read more]

Affect of Divorce on Children Research Paper

… ¶ … divorce on children. Impacts of divorce on children have until quite recently been unilaterally stated to be detrimental. However, as recently as a decade ago at least two empirical studies (Kelly, 2007; Wallerstein & Lewis, 2007) found that such may not be case. Too many other variables are involved aside from which distinction must be drawn between children who suffered from within the context of their unhappy two-parent marriage and children who function from within the context of a divorced background. This essay will also conclude with the research question regarding whether any particular prevention programs can be implemented to stymie potential negative impact of divorce on the children.


The new millennium shows divorce to be as consistent as ever, and research shows contradictory results regarding its impact on the children. A further question would be that, granted that divorce were to occur, are there any preventative programs or action-steps that could alleviate the potentially negative results.

For more than 40 years, divorce has been viewed by media and by science as the cause of enduring behavioral and emotional behavior in children and young adults (Amato, 2010), whereas growing up in a married family has been historically considered wholesome. This picture, however, is too simplistic particularly since many two-parent families do not offer the desired stable and conflict-free environment. Furthermore, researchers such as Hetherington (1999) (in Sandler, Miles, Cookston, & Braver (2008)) have shown that even though there may be differences between children from emotionally stable 2-paretns families and between those from divorce, the majority of children from divorced families are emotionally well-adjusted.

Two recent longitudinal studies (Kelly, 2007; Wallerstein & Lewis, 2007) have shown that many more variables are involved in the effects of divorce on children and that, in many cases, children may prove more emotionally resilient than was popularly believed to be the case. Factors include the nature of the initial separation, the nature of the divorce and child's relationship with parents (including custody factors), the nature of the parents relationship with one another, parental adjustment and resources, social, communal and other family support (if there is), children's academic and social adjustment, re-partnering of either one or both of the parents, and characteristics of the children themselves. The more multiple the stressors, the harder it may be for children to deal with the divorce over time and the more exponential the risks.

Hetherington (1999) (in Sandler, Miles, Cookston, & Braver (2008)), for instance, concludes that the extent of emotional risk for children from divorced families is twice as likely as that for children from continuously and happily long-married families. 10% of children from continuously married families may have serious psychological and behavioral components as measured on objective tests compared to the 20-25% of children with the same problems from divorced families (Waite, Luo, Lewin, 2009) and these problems do not disappear with remarriage (ibid.). The largest effects are seen with conduct disorders, antisocial behaviors, and disregard to authority figures such as parents and teachers.… [read more]

Zora Neale Hurston's Biography Their Eyes Essay

… Zora Neale Hurston's Biography

Their Eyes Were Watching God

Brief introduction of the book

Plot of the Novel



Brief Introduction (of the work in general)

In this work we perform an analysis of the book "Their Eyes were… [read more]

Death of Woman Wang Earthquakes Essay

… For those who's lives were miserable, there was literally no escape; and woman Wang's story is a perfect example of this. No matter how unhappy she was, she had no way out. Even when she tried to buck the system and escape her circumstances, she ended up alone and at the mercy of the world. Without a means of support, she was forced to return home, her escape a complete failure. And worse, her husband then violently murdered her and accused an innocent man of her murder. Her story is a reminder that there is no escape from the crushing restrictions of society, that justice for the individual is insignificant against the needs of society as a whole.

The people of T'an Ch'eng started out with no prospects for the improvement of their lives, lives that were miserable and filled with suffering. Spence's The Death of Woman Wang provides the reader with a glimpse of the misery and suffering of the Chinese peasant of the 17th century. Throughout it's pages this book paints a very bleak picture of life in rural Chinese society, and offers little in the way of improving these people's lives. However, magistrate Huang's insistence on learning the facts and getting to the truth of the woman Wang case provides some redemption for the bleakness of Chinese society.

Woman Wang's death was followed by Jen and his father accusing the neighbor, Kao of her murder. He went on to implicate another innocent in the crime, the woman Ts'ao, and by involving his father in the crime, made him an accomplice. But the magistrate Huang was able to see through the lies and deceit to discover that Kao, the woman Ts'ao, and Jen's father were all innocent of the crime. Huang confronted Jen with his suspicions and forced a confession from him. And while Jen was eligible for the death penalty, not for the crime of murdering his wife but for accusing innocent people of the crime, he did not receive it. Huang found mitigating circumstances which allowed for Jen to only receive a sentence of beating with a bamboo stick and the wearing a collar for public humiliation.

While the ending of the story provides some relief from the oppression of Chinese society (the guilty were discovered and punished), Jen was not punished for the murder of woman Wang. As Magistrate Huang asserted in his statement mitigating the punishment of Jen, "woman Wang had not followed the Tao of a wife - she had betrayed her husband and had deserved to die." (Spence, 138) So in the end, woman Wang was the ultimate victim of…… [read more]

Mbuti Culture of the Congo Research Paper

… ¶ … Mbuti Culture of the Congo

The Mbuti society of central Africa is a sub-category of an ethnic group known to Westerners as "African Pygmies." Since the colonization of Africa by Europeans several centuries ago, the Pygmies have taken… [read more]

Ethics Abe and Mary Essay

… Some people believe that knowing negating information about one's health will only make them more ill. In some instances this is the reason why patients do not want to know their prognosis. Not having information about ones prognosis can also… [read more]

Developmental and Cultural Comprehensive Healthcare Essay

… It was recently discovered that he had an MI and he was treated for the condition. He continues to smoke three packs of cigarettes per day, and he works approximately 60 hours per week at a stressful job.

Antonio is in the middle age adult developmental stage in which he is working out generativity vs. stagnation (Springhouse Corporation, 1990). He is the primary breadwinner for the family and this is how he identifies himself. He seems to be a type A personality who prides himself on the work that he does and the fact that he is able to care for his family.

As a Cuban American, Antonio comes from a patriarchal system in which he is looked on as the provider for the family (Franco & Wilson, 2008). However, it seems that this fact is killing him. Cigarettes are a habit, but they are often used by people who are overly stressed to combat the anxiety that occurs (Dichter, 1947). Thus, the fact that he is stressed by both his responsibility and by his actual job contribute to the smoking. The nurse needs to understand how his culture affects his need to continue working.

Lourdes Garcia

This is a 45-year-old woman who is a native of Cuba who works from home as a publisher of historical novels. She is the primary caretaker of Mercedes and she carries the burden of trying to be a go between for her husband and son. She has hypertension which is being controlled by medication.

Lourdes is, along with her husband, in the middle age adult stage of life. She is trying to work out generativity vs. stagnation, and she seems to feel that she is caught in the middle of a lot of issues. Lourdes is having issues with completing her work because of the demands placed upon her and this may increase her hypertension. Her developmental angst (trying to make something lasting of herself, while in danger of stagnating into traditional roles), may cause her medical issues to worsen.

Traditionally, the Cuban American wife is submissive to her husband and is likely to work as a homemaker (Franco & Wilson, 2008). This is true of Lourdes in one way because she does care for the home, but she is also trying to establish a business at home which is non-traditional. This could increase her angst since she is not following a typical Cuban American way.


The family has a myriad of health issues which can be overcome with some directed interventions. Someone needs to help with Mercedes and the stress that Lourdes feels could be alleviated if Mercedes went to a senior center three times per week. This would give Lourdes a break. The family also needs to seek counseling (at least Antonio, Lourdes and Gerardo) about the fact that Gerardo is gay. This could reduce the tension in the family further. Antonio needs to continue the smoking cessation, but he also needs to look into cutting his hours at work.… [read more]

Nasw Social Work and Cultural Essay

… I do not feel that I should refuse to work with clients that are married homosexuals; however I do believe my own personal opinion could be a potential barrier when working with this type of individual.

The main ethical principle of the NASW is that "social workers primary goal is to help people in need and to address social problems. Social workers elevate service to others above self-interest" (NASW, 2010). As a social worker I would need to be unbiased and I am not sure that I am capable of being unbiased. My personal values about this cultural subject are very strong and I would need to find a way to work with these individuals without allowing my personal biases to influence my work and their care.

Homosexuality is not widely accepted in my culture. People from my country have strong traditional family values. The sanctity of marriage is respected and protected. It is important to me that I feel as though I am respecting the values of marriage and I am protecting my beliefs about marriage. Supporting homosexual marriage would cause me to feel as though I am going against what I believe in.

My mentor has instilled in me the importance to refrain from mixing person feelings when working with clients. I must learn to segregate my personal biases when working with clients. I know this process is essential for my success and to be an effective social worker. I can now learn how to change this weakness into strength. I am now educated about this potential bias and must educate myself on how to be culturally responsible which is what must be done (Bender, Negi & Fowler, 2010).


Bender, K., Negi, N. & Fowler, D.N. (2010). Exploring the relationship between self-awareness and student commitment and understanding of culturally responsive social work practice. Journal of Ethnic & Cultural Diversity in Social Work. 19 (1) 34-53

NASW (2010). Code of Ethics of National Association of Social Workers. Retrieved from… [read more]

Comparison of Northanger Abbey and Atonement Essay

… ¶ … Northanger Abbey & Atonement

Comparison of Northanger Abbey and Atonement

Extended Essay Assignment

Comparison of Time Periods

Comparison of Setting

Comparison of Heroines

Analysis of Mistakes

Ian McEwan's Atonement is a serious look at the consequences our actions… [read more]

Industrial Capitalism in the U.S. the Nature Term Paper

… ¶ … Industrial Capitalism in the U.S.

The nature of business and society was dramatically altered by the development and maintenance of capitalism here in the United States and abroad. After centuries of living within a purely agricultural sphere, industry was brought to American cities in full force through the driving elements of industrial capitalism. What resulted was an entire new type of workforce, one which worked within the context of the factory structure, and not the family owned business structure. This style of business only expanded as capitalism brought wealth and power to businesses working within the United States. Now, the modern American family structure has been taken from its original roots and permanently transformed into a single, nuclear family unit where individualism and participation within the contemporary capitalist structure flourish. Modern industrial capitalism evolved the American familial structure from an extended one within an agricultural context to a single, nuclear familial structure within a typically urban industrial environment.

The development and maintenance of modern industrial capitalism in the U.S. has affected the family structure dramatically. Essentially, the entire nature of regular society changed from a rural, agricultural existence to a bustling urban one within the shadow of massive buildings and factories. Thus, even the close bonds of the family changed. It evolved from a larger family structure that lived and worked together in an agriculture society. Before the modern industry was brought to the United States, small businesses run by all the members of an extended family were the primary source of employment and income throughout the United States and abroad. However, development of the modern industrial capitalist structure changed this to a more single family oriented one within the context of large urban sprawls. Factory work required long hours and was outside the context of the home. Thus, industrial capitalism moved the social and economic center out of the household. Families thus often split apart, leaving extended families broken up into smaller nuclear…… [read more]

Human Behav Sonny, Aged Twelve, and Ashlee Assessment

… Human Behav

Sonny, aged twelve, and Ashlee, aged six, are in the care of their older sister Ree Dolly. Ree Dolly is seventeen and therefore nearly at the age of majority. The mother of the three children is mentally ill, and Ree Dolly takes care of her too. Jessup, the father, is dead. There are several issues at stake with the family. First, Ree Dolly is at an age at which she will need to start considering planning for the future, attending college, or developing a career. However, she wants to remain with her family because she is their primary caregiver. Second, the family must be understood within the context of Ozark culture. Third, issues related to poverty and political disenfranchisement must be taken into consideration.

This case study illuminates the importance of sensitivity to micro-cultures and subcultures. The Ozark hillbilly culture is one that has been entrenched and relatively stable for several generations. Its roots can be traced back to American Westward expansion. While the predominant racial and ethnic groups in the Ozarks trace their roots to European ancestry, the family in question is not unfamiliar with the diverse landscape of the United States.

The eldest sister finds herself in a maternal role, prematurely aged by the weight of her responsibilities. While she does not view her younger brother and sister as burdens, Ree Dolly does need to understand that at this time in her life she should be exploring her options for creative, personal, and professional development. Caring for her siblings is her greatest concern, which is remarkable for a young woman of her age. Many seventeen-year-olds are only concerned with themselves. The role of the social worker vis-a-vis Ree Dolly is to empower her while also assuring her that her younger siblings are cared…… [read more]

Health Promotion Strategies Term Paper

… In this manner, the grandmother will be more receptive to the information and more wiling to follow the recommendations, accept the drugs, and adhere to recommended interventions. Alternately, a Cuban American healthcare worker may be found to act as interpreter and mediator between the health care services and Mercedes, again in attempt to persuade her to accept and follow the treatment.

Angelo is somewhat more complex since his rationale and manner deals with the typical Cuban sentiment macho sentiment that, as man, he can and must overcome his 'weaknesses' in order to continue to support his family. It would be considered unmanly for him to surrender to his 'weakness'. Another element that must be taken into consideration is the finding that a huge proportion of Cubans are uninsured. This makes them unwilling o seek medical treatment. Someone, such as Angelo, who values his money, would all the more likely to fall under such a category. An element of advice might be to again get a Cuban American social worker involved who can explain the severity of smoking to Angelo and point out that smoking is linked with disease and that he can control his own health issues by relinquishing his smoking habits.

A great percentage of Cubans who cannot afford medical treatment seek Santeria healing services for their symptoms. The Santeria tradition is an entrenched part of the Cuban heritage, and it may be possible that Angelo (and Mercedes) may be directed to some reliable Santeria outlet for assistance.

Gerardo may not be as much affected by his Cuban heritage as by the phenomena of self-denial where he may be unwilling to come to grips with the fact that he is susceptible to AIDS and may even then have the introductory symptoms of it. Gerardo's case seems a shut one since he has vanished from the scene. Presumably, being aware of the illness, Gerardo must be willing to be helped and open to his situation before ideas can be suggested.

Lourdes, suffering from hypertension, seems to be more 'Americanized' than the other members of her family and hence would likely be open to any of the 'American' solutions for stress that run the spectrum from yoga to meditation to counseling to drugs. Psychotherapy might be her best bet given her situation, but Lourdes would likely integrate that with other interventions.

Either way, health problems cannot be separated one from the other. All are inevitably linked. The hypertension, fro instance, so prominent in various members of that family, is itself part of and causing the other problems. For that reason, strategies should be sought whereby a holistic treatment can be implemented for each member of the family according to his or her own particular personality and cultural characteristics.


Boswell, T.D. & Curtis, J.R. (1984) The Cuban-American Experience. Culture, Images and Perspectives. NJ: Rowman & Allanheld Publishers

Cuban Americans… [read more]

Visual Rhetoric Essay

… Visual Rhetoric

Visual Communication

The purpose of the present paper is to start a discussion regarding the issue of visual communication. In order to do that, we will be making some general considerations about the manner in which the visual means act as language for the transmission of messages. In addition, we will be analyzing the cover of a book that came out in the fall of 201,namely Oogy: The Dog Only a Family Could Love.

Visual communication can influence an individual's feelings and beliefs. As Stoner and Perkins (297) pointed out, study of argument dating back as far as Aristotle has focused on words. Nevertheless, visual communication undergoes a huge success nowadays. While it is believed that "an image is worth a thousand words," PR specialists and people working in advertising know that specific messages can not be transmitted through visual means only. Images are needed because, according to their quality and the reality that they represent, they are likely to draw attention and stir emotions, but the creation and proper transmission of messages makes words indispensable.

Stoner and Perkins (297) wrote that visuals invite interpretation but do not control it. It is the words which shape our thoughts. Visuals, on the other hand, suggest thoughts that the mind expands upon, fueled by both intellectual and emotional responses. An excellent example of this phenomena in action is the response to the two words "dog fighting." What images comes to mind-Some people might immediately think of Michael Vick, quarterback for the Philadelphia Eagles. Vick had had a successful career with the Atlanta Falcons, but was released after being convicted of felony charges because of his participation in an interstate dog fighting ring. Vick served prison time and apologized to the public; nevertheless, there was considerable controversy when the Eagles signed him.

Individuals who know little about football and do not recognize the name of Michael Vick could still have a negative visual associated with "dog fighting." By itself, the word "dog" often conjures a number of different mental pictures and associated thoughts and emotions. One might think fondly of a pet, either one that is current or part of a childhood memory. One might even think of a dog from television or movies, such as the Jack Russell terrier "Eddie" from Frazier or the loveable St. Bernard "Beethoven" from a series of movies with his name in the title. Many people like dogs, even if they have never owned one, and to associate

"dog" with "fighting" brings disturbing images to mind. People who make money through the illegal sport would obviously have a different mental image, but the majority of reasonable people would most likely feel horror, disgust, and outrage for the perpetrators and sympathy for the dogs.

Addressing the area of advertising, we must underline right from the very beginning that the purpose of most advertising messages is to persuade the targeted people to modify their behavior in a certain direction (for example through the acquisition of the advertised… [read more]

Ephesians 5: 21-33 Essay

… Husbands are also instructed to "love their wives as their own bodies," (Campbell 2010) indicating that a husband should treat his wife with the care and respect that he would reserve for himself. Paul explains that all people have a natural love for one's self, and that people do not purposely harm one's self. As the Church and Christ are one in the same, through the union which is represented by marriage, so to is a husband and wife. The husband and wife are joined into one flesh, and, because no one should want to harm their own flesh, no husband should want to hurt his wife. In treating a wife without respect, a husband harms her and thus harms himself in turn.

This joining together of Christ and the Church, represented through marriage, is what Paul calls the "Great Mystery" (Campbell 2010) While it may be difficult for human beings to fully understand how the Church is subservient to Christ in the heavenly sphere, it is possible to re-enact this relationship on Earth through the sanctity of marriage. That is the final instruction from Paul, "Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband."

In Ephesians 5:21-33, Paul is attempting to explain to the people how to maintain a loving and productive marriage. He tries to teach both husbands and wives the nature of Christian marriage, and the roles each person must be willing to accept. While some have seen this passage as an excuse for male tyranny over women, it is really demonstrating how two people should love and respect each other in marriage. Paul teaches that much like the relationship between Christ and the Church, in which the Church must submit to the authority of Christ, so to must a wife submit to the authority of her husband. But in return, like Christ and the Church, the husband must love and cherish his wife the same way he loves himself, for like Christ and the Church, the husband and wife, when joined in Holy Matrimony, are joined in body and spirit.

Works Cited

Campbell, Gordon. King James Bible. Oxford: Oxford UP. 2010. Print.

Mays, James Luther. Harper's Bible Commentary. San Francisco: Harper & Row, 1988. Print.

Peake, A.S., Black, M., and Rowley,…… [read more]

Spirit Catches Book Report

… I was not surprised by the affection given, because the foster parents seemed like open minded and friendly people, and once they got a grasp on the situation at hand they knew that they needed to help care for this child and not make things any worse. In the end, even when getting regular medication, Lia still had several epileptic episodes, so no, I do not think that foster care helped anything except make Lia feel anxious about being away from her mother and family. The only benefit I can see is that the Lee family gained one more advocate for their situation.

Another advocate for the Lee family was Jeanine Hilt, who was their social worker up until her death in 1993, due to complications from an asthma attack. I believe Jeanine was able to reach the Lee family and gain their trust because they used one of the Lee daughters, May, to translate, which afforded the family the ability to have May repeat something they forgot later; she was not an overly tall person, therefore was not intimidating (in fact, she was the Hmong family's same height and size). Also, she did not belittle their way of life and was a great help to the family in communicating things they needed or did not understand, but mostly, she helped them get their daughter back from foster care.

What is especially interesting and sad about this case and this book, is that the main character, Lia, never speaks beyond saying her parents names. However, she is the most important person in this book. In the end, the parents and the doctors do not matter, only she does, because it is so sad that she doesn't understand what it happening to her and she can't make decisions for herself. It is easy to know her nonetheless, through the numerous accounts and interviews of her personality from her parents, foster parents, doctors, nurses and Jeanine. I feel I know her personality, but not how she felt about everything that was going on around her. That is probably impossible to know. Although in the end, when she is just a body with a damaged brain beyond repair, she is still valuable. She serves to remind doctors who work on patients with a different belief system and culture from themselves, that it is not wrong or stupid to belief in something different. She will always be on her doctors' minds and will be there the next time they need to communicate with someone who has a language barrier, or a fear of American medicine. Those doctors will continue to think about her, even if (as in the book), many of the doctors referred to her as "dead" or in the past tense though she is very much alive. Mostly, the medical community will hopefully learn more means to work with difficult cases like this one with more class and open-mindedness.


Fadiman, A. (1997). The spirit catches you and you fall down: A… [read more]

Older Adult Abuse Term Paper

… Older Adult Abuse and Neglect

Elderly abuse and neglect is a growing social problem. Increasing awareness about the risk factors for elderly abuse is paramount in our efforts against this social evil. Health institutions that are responsible for providing direct… [read more]

Water for Chocolate by Laura Essay

… The smell of Eriko's favorite perfume tugged at my heart. This, too, will disappear after the letter is opened a few more times, I thought. That was hardest of all" (Yoshimoto 53). This is love at a very different angle. The greater the love, the greater the loss when it ends, and both of the main characters are now orphans after they have lost everyone in their families. They wonder if they should begin a relationship. The author writes, "But I wonder, as I look at his uneasy profile blazingly illuminated by the hellish fire, although we have always acted like brother and sister, aren't we really man and woman in the primordial sense, and don't we think of each other that way?" (Yoshimoto 66). Both writers can get great emotions out of their readers because they use powerful situations to show the great passion, love, and loss that people feel throughout their lives, and they portray characters that seem real and human.

In both of these books, the kitchen and cooking plays a central role, and it is how the main characters show some of their passions. In "Chocolate," Tita's passion for cooking started from the moment she was born, and it lasts throughout her life, the end of her life after her niece's wedding. Each chapter starts with a traditional family recipe, and Tita infuses them with her own passions, often leading to incredible reactions in the diners. Such as the reaction to the Quail with Rose Sauce that sent passion through Tita and Pedro and caused her sister to run away from the ranch naked.

"Kitchen," on the other hand, is much more refined, yet the main character finds comfort in food and cooking, and she makes up her mind about any home by the type of kitchen it contains. Yoshimoto writes, "I laughed. 'Could it be that you're satisfying hunger and lust at the same time?" (Yoshimoto 100). In the end, there is hope for these two orphans, and it seems that they may have some great meals together, too.

The final story, "Moonlight Shadow," tells the story of the narrator, who lost her boyfriend when she was only twenty. The author writes, "I lost Hitoshi at the age of twenty, and I suffered from it so much that I felt as if my own life had stopped" (Yoshimoto 111). Both of these books show that great love can last a lifetime, even if the person we love is no longer with us. They have different views of love, and "Water" is much more passionate and sensual in the portrayal of love. Love leads to loss in "Kitchen," which makes it much more difficult and emotional to read. The author's styles could not be more different. Yoshimoto writes in a very straightforward manner, and her characters are not especially intricate or detailed. Her theme is the emotional loss of love, and how people deal with it. Her style is to the point, but very emotional, show… [read more]

Grapes of Wrath Social Welfare Essay

… These farmers were not ready for such a long journey, having uprooted their families to travel far into the West for better livelihoods.

Arrival and Disillusionment

The problem with having displaced so many farmers was that at arrival to the… [read more]

Mark's Gospel A-Level Coursework

… Gospel

Jesus sometimes tells demons not to reveal who he, Jesus, is. Find three examples of this, citing the words the demon(s) say, as well as giving chapter and verse. Speculate a bit (in a paragraph) on why Jesus would… [read more]

Huck Finn Research Paper

… ¶ … Twain incorporates humor by using a boy's point-of-view. For example, when he says that while he was out in the woods and he hears a "sound that a ghost makes when it wants to tell about something that's on its mind and can't make itself understood" (245).

Twain establishes a trust with the narrator by telling the readers that Mr. Twain told the truth "mainly" (244).

The sentence structure twain uses about the oath is convincing because it reads much like how a little boy speaks and thinks. The sentences run together but they are also packed tight with information.

Twain builds suspense in Chapter 7 by pulling the reader into the story with Huck's every movement. Huck falls asleep and wakes up afraid. He also gives plenty of detail of Huck moving down the river.

Examples of imagery in Chapter 7 include the willows hanging over the riverbank and the drift logs slipping along the bank.

It is ironic that no one went to the cabin to rescue Huck because he was a troublemaker. Searching for his remains would indicate that they hoped they were rid of him forever and this would make them happy. It is ironic that a captured slave is worth more than a white snitch.

Figurative language includes the rain being all furry and thrashing so that the trees looked spider-webby.

After his prank on Jim, Huck begins to realize the true meaning of friendship and decides he cannot turn him in.

Twain uses hyperbole when he says that he almost faints in Chapter 13.

The frame in Chapter 18 occurs when Buck tells the story of his cousin, Bud, riding through the woods.

Grangerford…… [read more]

Mormon Polygamy Past and Present Research Paper

… Mormon Polygamy Past & Present

In the 1820s, Joseph Smith Jr. said that he was visited by the angel Moroni, who gave him gold plates inscribed with the history of ancient American people (Albanes 2003). He then published what he… [read more]

Complacency and the Fall of Civilizations Research Paper

… Complacency and the Fall of America

"Laziness and cowardice are the reasons why so great a proportion of men, long after nature has released them from alien guidance (natura-liter maiorennes), nonetheless gladly remain in lifelong immaturity, and why it is… [read more]

Parental Custody Memos Research Paper

… Parental Custody Memos

Parental Custody


Civil Action No. XXX






Comes Sally Bright, by counsel, and for her Memorandum states as follows:


Sally Bright filed for divorce from John Bright and was granted temporary custody of their daughter, Chastity. John petitioned for joint custody and was granted visitation rights every weekend.

John Bright has been physically abusive to Sally on several occasions. Although he has never attacked Sally in front of Chastity, there is always the possibility of this happening if he cannot control his abusive nature.

Chastity is uncomfortable with the fact that her father now says he is gay and has testified that she feels weird around her father's companion. John's companion does not live with him, but someday might.


The most important factor in this case is the welfare of the child. The court needs to decide which household would be the most stable for Chastity. Although Chastity is more concerned with making new friends and does not want to leave her old friends behind, this is not the main issue. Given that John has physically abused Sally on several occasions during their marriage could point to his lack of anger management. Because of this, Sally has a legitimate right to be concerned about her daughter's safety. And although John denies the accusation by Sally that he drinks heavily, Simons and Meyer (1986) state that in cases such as this, "consultation or referral to an alcoholism expert for an opinion may be in order" (p. 143).

Since John disputes the allegation that he is an alcoholic, he should not have a problem being referred to a specialist who will assess the situation and report the outcomes.


Awarding custody to Sally Bright is in the best interest of the child. Sally has provided a stable home for the child and will continue to do so. Also, there has been no negative information presented to the court regarding Sally Bright as there has been with John Bright. Sally Bright is the best choice in this matter.


Civil Action No. XXX







Comes John Bright, by counsel, and for him Memorandum states as follows:


Sally Bright has accepted a job offer that…… [read more]

Divorce Essay

… Though facts propose that money is not the major source of divorce but it at a halt remains a noteworthy aspect. Rowd, Alisha (2008)

Forms of Abuse

There are many forms of abuse which in turn culminates to divorce, when one talks of abuse what comes to mind mostly is deliberate and consistent physical battery but this research brings more to mind like sexual and even emotional abuse not forgetting drug and alcohol abuse. Physical or verbal abuse may feature not but intolerance and difficulties in financial management may sabotage the marriage.

Marital Infidelity

Unfaithfulness is a matter of concern when we talk about marriage and as the law of marriage puts it, it is clear that marriage ought to be a reciprocally elite agreement among two parties and unless this is fulfilled, it is therefore clear that one party is not faithful to the other and by this a divorce can be granted.

Effect of divorce

None gets to marriage with a mind of not making if every one wishes to stay in their marital status for as long as they live but due to some conditions or situations they find themselves out and the effects is significant. Research shows that there is 30% decline in living standards initially enjoyed with women while in marriage compared to 10% that of men. Pamela J. Smock (1993), being that there is extra to life than just money men and women tend to go through many more things after divorce like life expectancies whereby life expectancies for divorced parties are shorter than for married parties. Robert Coombs (1991).Lastly the effect rolls down to the children in that they lack the parental care hence falls victim of drug abuse or end up falling on streets.


Family being an imperative fraction of society consequently many had better be aware of the importance of association in family. With the changing roles of women divorce has turn out to be the extensive problem as stress and lack of communication contributing to it, however there seem to be negative and a positive effect. The positive effect lies on those who have no children as for them divorce is there best solution to their problems because it is by consent, while the negative effect lies with those who have children and this comes when the children turns out to be the victims of the situation. So those with children should think deliberatively before making such decisions.

Work cited

Blackstone (1984), "Commentaries on the Laws of England" p. 435 (Legal Classics Library spec. ed.

Pamela J. Smock, (1993) "The Economic Costs of Marital Disruption for Young Women over the Past Two Decades." Demography 30: 353-371.

Robert Coombs (1991), "Marital Status and Personal Well-Being" A Literature Review," Family Relations 40:97-102; I.M. Joung, et…… [read more]

Othello in Shakespeare's Tragedy Othello, Brabantio Strongly Essay

… Othello

In Shakespeare's tragedy Othello, Brabantio strongly protests the marriage of his daughter Desdemona with the Moorish general Othello. Brabantio accuses Othello of using black magic to seduce her daughter, for he does not believe that Desdemona would fall in love with a Moore. Brabantio respects Othello as a military leader, but disapproves the marriage between him and Desdemona. There are several reasons for that. Brabantio is angry that his daughter and Othello eloped secretly, without his approval. Four hundred years ago, daughters were supposed to be absolutely obedient to their fathers who were entitled to choose their daughter's future husbands, and Desdemona violated that rule. Brabantio also questions Othello's Christianness although Shakespeare depicts Othello as a Christian man. Brabantio equates Othello with the Turk when he says "So let the Turk of Cyprus us beguile, / We lose it not so long as we can smile" (1.3.208-9), and then with pagans when Brabantio warns that if Othello's stealing of Desdemona "may have passage free, / Bondslaves and pagans shall our statesmen be" (1.2.98-99). It is clear from this passage that Brabantio views Othello's background as a slave with disdain.

The main reason for Brabantio's opposition to his daughter's marriage to Othello seems to be Othello's color. It is Othello's blackness that Iago appeals to when he tries to "awaken" Brabantio. Iago equates miscegenation with losing one's soul and the black color with the devil. "Your heart is burst, you have lost half your soul," Iago says. "Even now, very now, an old black ram, / Is topping your white ewe." "Arise, arise!" Iago also warns, " Awake the snorting citizens with the bell, / or else the devil will make a grandsire of you" (1.1.9-12). Brabantio also refers to Othello's color when he alludes that miscegenation is against nature. "She- in spite of nature," Brabantio laments, "Of years, of country, credit, everything- / to fall in love with what she fear'd to look on!" (1.3.4-6). It is because Brabantio does not believe that Desdemona, a white Venetian, could fall in love…… [read more]

Eulogy Chelsea Nordstrom Whenever I Think Essay

… Eulogy

Chelsea Nordstrom

Whenever I think about Chelsea Nordstrom I feel joy and compassion, the first because of this girl's pleasing character and the second because she is one of the only people who can make anyone consider themselves appreciated. In spite of the fact that, like most people, she comes across difficult moments across her life, she does not hesitate to employ positive thinking and always manages to emerge victorious from an impasse. The comfort she sets off in those who interact with her is impressive, as she can virtually influence anyone to smile, with her smile being contagious.

You can rarely encounter Chelsea's qualities in people, as I can personally claim that her voluntariness, her beauty, and her optimism is something that only happens once in a blue moon. This kind of character needs to be available to a wider public. I can honestly say that I feel sorry for those who have not met Chelsea. The way that she perfectly succeeds in expressing herself freely and elegantly at the same time is impressive, given that most individuals are hesitant about showing the world who they really are. I am thankful that Chelsea showed me her true nature, just as she did with everyone that she came across.

While some might feel that it is impossible to go through life without building a false and rather commercial image of oneself (as we all want the world to love us, even when some of the values we put across are not genuine), Chelsea knows that this is not true. She inspired me in being unafraid about exposing myself to the world. One of the best ways to understand Chelsea's success in having everyone around her feel good would…… [read more]

My World View Essay

… ¶ … Shaping of My World View

My world view has been shaped by my family, my education and my experiences in the United States Navy. For me, life has four important components: health, family and friends, career advancement, and… [read more]

Welfare Reform TANF White Paper

… Welfare Reform -- Temporary Assistance for Needy Families

The Congress of the United States is set to consider the reauthorization of a program called the "Temporary Assistance for Needy Families" (TANF). Should Congress keep the program going? Are some revisions… [read more]

Elder Abuse Essay

… Elder Abuse

First question: Is elder abuse more prevalent today than in pre-industrial America? That is an impossible question to answer with absolute certainty due to the lack of data that was kept in the 19th Century. However, that having been said, in the book Elder Abuse: Conflict in the Family (p. 12) the author asserts, "…there is almost no evidence of direct abuse of the elderly in the 19th and early 20th centuries" (Pillemer, et al., 1986). But the authors go on to say there is the possibility that the elderly "were simply not seen as sufficiently important to warrant reformist attention" or that abuse was "concealed" in some way to save families from embarrassment (Pillemer, p. 12).

One thing is certain, and that is the reporting of incidents of elder abuse in the 21st century is pervasive and is bringing the issue into the bright light of day. According to the National Elder Abuse Incidence Study (Executive Summary), the problem is enormous and requires the attention of political leaders, healthcare professionals, the news media and others in the communities where older people live. To wit, the 1998 report (albeit 12 years old) asserts that there were about 450,000 older people in domestic settings who were reported to have been abused in 1996. Another 551,000 were neglected in 1996. Of those, females were abused more often and those 80 years of age or older were abused and neglected "at two to three times their proportion of the elderly population" (National elder Abuse Incidence Study).

Meantime in 2006, the State Adult Protective Services (APS) reported that in 2004, there were 565,747 reports of abuse to elderly people, an increase of 19.7% from the year 2000 (Teaster, et al., 2006). Of those reports, the APS investigated 461,135, 16.3% more than were investigated in 2000. And of those 461,135 investigations, the APS "substantiated 191,908 reports" of elder abuse. Still, notwithstanding those statistics, there may be more abuse than is reported. The white paper by the National Center on Elder Abuse (NCEA) reflects that physicians may not be reporting incidents of violence against older people because they "generally have little training in recognizing and addressing abuse" and also they may be "hesitant…… [read more]

Parallel Between Zits and Gregor Samsa Essay

… ¶ … parallel between Zits and Gregor Samsa in Kafka's "The Metamorphosis" is that both individuals are alienated being -- alienated from their bodies and their society. One day, Gregor Samsa awakes to find himself transformed into a gigantic cockroach.… [read more]

Mountains Beyond Mountains Author Tracy Book Review

… Counselors have to receive and absorb their client's traumatic stories at the same time as being hopeful, supportive, and empathic, which often places considerable stress on their emotional health and psychological well-being. This is especially the case if the counselors… [read more]

Namesake and Metamorphosis Essay

… ¶ … Namesake and Metamorphosis

The Namesake & the Metamorphosis

Jhumpa Lahiri's "The Namesake" and Franz Kafka's "The Metamorphosis" both put across the concept of a family attempting to make it in society, and particularly the concept of a young… [read more]

Health Weight and Society the Stress Research Paper

… Health

Weight and Society

The stress on women to appear and act in particular ways is so intensely embedded in their psyches that it's simple to miss the force that mass culture has on how they feel about themselves and… [read more]

Divorce Culture Term Paper

… May 2004. Retrieved from:

Baskersville (2004) reviews the history of the 'no-fault' divorce and how politics has played a key role in the continuation of the no-fault divorce and how feminism has supported this form of divorce.,

(3) Smiley, Jane (2010) Divorce! It's Good for the Children! The Huffington Post. 12 Nov 2010. Retrieved from:

Smiley (2010) relates how her daughter believes that their life was better after Smiley's divorce.

(4) Gallagher, Maggie (1997) First things: End No-Fault Divorce?. Leadership University. Aug/Sept 1997. Retrieved from:

Gallagher (1997) writes of the no-fault divorce that it is "…not a positive or liberating experience for everyone involved, many therapists now acknowledge. It may improve the well-being of the spouse who seeks it, but it does damage to others: the spouse who does not want to divorce, parents, grandparents and other relatives, and especially dependent children."

(5) Wetzstein, C. (2008) The Good, Bad, and Ugly of Divorce. 29 June 2008. Retrieved from:,_bad_and_ugly_of_divorce_The_Washin.pdf

Wetzstein (2008) reports that many times the behavior of children is improved following divorce of their parents but however, that many times this is simply not the case.


Whitehead, Barbara Dafoe (nd) The Making of a Divorce Culture.

Baskersville, Stephen, Ph.D. (2004) Strengthening Marriage Through Divorce and Custody Reform. The Family in America. The Howard Center for Family, Religion and Society. May 2004. Retrieved from:

Gallagher, Maggie (1997) First things: End No-Fault Divorce?. Leadership University. Aug/Sept 1997. Retrieved from:

Smiley, Jane (2010) Divorce! It's Good for the Children! The Huffington Post. 12 Nov 2010. Retrieved from:

Wetzstein, C. (2008) The Good, Bad, and Ugly of Divorce. 29 June 2008. Retrieved from:,_bad_and_ugly_of_ divorce_The_Washin.pdf… [read more]

What I Learn From the Book Essay

… ¶ … Steer Toward Rock by Fae Myenne Ng [...] main character Jack, and how his life embodies the Asian-American experience. Jack represents the era of Chinese immigration into the United States, when "old school" Chinese operated in shady operations in San Francisco's Chinatown, and knew ways to circumvent the system. Jack is preyed upon from the time he enters the country, and yet he still hopes for a brighter future.

Jack's experience in America is like the experience of many people who came to America to better themselves. He hopes for a brighter future, but he also recognizes family obligations. What his life taught me is that our Chinese ancestors went through many agonizing situations that we have no comprehension of, and probably never could survive. He comes into the country and instantly owes $4,000 to the "father" who smuggled him in. He denounces his identity to prove his love, and his father is deported. He had a daughter by a woman he loves, but she will not marry him, and he is targeted by his father when he denounces his identity and sends him back to China. He has many troubles and worries, and yet, he is a decent man who wants the best for those around him.

Through all his experiences, he is a hard, dedicated worker. He loved being a butcher. He says, "I read meat. I moved my fingers through marbled flesh like a vulture's beak, I fanned muscle from tendon and found by feel the soft flank that was gold" (Ng, 2008, p. 6). This shows me his dedication to his craft, that he is a hard worker, and that he honors his debt and wishes to repay it.

The story also shows that there is a closeness and a camaraderie among the residents of Chinatown. They all know each other and watch out for each other, even if it sounds like they are nagging or yelling at each other sometimes. Jack gets advice from these people, and they seem like a family.…… [read more]

Cultural Difference Term Paper

… Cultural Difference

This proposed study will explore the phenomenon of "arranged marriages in India" to possibly unearth the reasons why this practice has withstood the test of time and force of other cultures. This enduring practice is very common in many Asian countries but we will specifically focus on India where the system exists despite a large portion of its urban population adopting western values and lifestyle.

Cultural differences are interesting and definitely worth exploring to see how those differences emerged and how they have been withstanding the test of time. It is important to understand that over the years, a sort of cultural fusion has taken place resulting in cultural enmeshment whereby many new ideas have entered our cultures and vice versa. However there are still some differences that persist and one of them is the difference in the way marriages take place in east and west. In this paper, we shall be focusing strictly on the tradition of arrange vs. chosen marriages in India which is a country with a strong and very old cultural fabric.

In India, the practice of arranged marriages is still very much present even though over time, young people have begun to choose their own partners and such unions are called "love marriages." But arranged marriages are not only prevalent; they are also well accepted by the society. Society generally tends to prefer the practice and offers greater support to marriages that take place in this manner. "Love marriages" [Nanda, 2000] even though in vogue in urban centers are still frowned upon.

That however is not the case here in the United States where we have become accustomed to choosing our own partners. The practice of arranged marriages is long gone, if it was ever present and we would now find it rather impossible to allow our parents to choose someone for us. Even though our friends and others would often play cupid, still the whole process requires approval of the girl and the guy. Things are very different in countries like India where arranged marriage is one custom that has withstood the test of time and it is truly an enduring practice. Nanda (2000) writes:

"In India, almost all marriages are arranged. Even among the educated middle classes in modern, urban India, marriage is as much a concern of the families as it is of the individuals. So customary is the practice of arranged marriage that there is a special name for a marriage which is not arranged: It is called a "love match." (p. 196)


The method would include interviews with Indians residing in the United States including some secondary research. For this research, primary data would be far more beneficial than secondary data but we would still need the latter to connect our primary data with a psychology theory or concept.


Lack of true self-awareness is the primary reason for the youth in India still relying on their parents' choice in matters of marriage.


Self-awareness means a… [read more]

Chinese Cultural History Term Paper

… Chinese Cultural History

The Female as the Underappreciated Manager

The family letters written by heroic court official Yang Jisheng and esteemed family matriarch Gu Ruopu stand as two of the more candid glimpses into Ming-Qing family life available to us. The two letters arise out of different circumstances and carry different goals: one letter was written to a reluctant soon-to-be-widow, while the other was written by an accomplished, battle-hardened widow. Both indicate the role of women as essential family managers who toiled as they did because they needed families as much as the families needed them. Just as women seemed to not exist without a husband or a son, families could not function without the management of women.


Underlying the recommendations in both letters was the concept of the family as the most important corporate form, the political unit around which to rally. Among the Ming-Qing gentry, the family unit was constantly under threat of "disgrace" and "extinction."

This fear gave rise to a nervous caution against spoiling the hard work of familial ancestors. Yang's charge was to perpetuate the good name of the family and also to defy his enemies, who would be pleased with the failure of his sons. Gu's charge was two-fold: the first was not "violating her ancestor's law" and squandering her "parent's concerned care" in bringing her up to be a good wife to her husband. Gu's second responsibility was to her husband's family in raising the good sons, so as to not "ruin the bygone elder's enterprise."

Both letters convey anxiety about the relationships between different nuclear units of an extended family in regards to property, money, authority, and honor. Yang seems to anticipate these types of disputes between his wife and his brother, asking his wife to "…let him have the advantage, and he will be happy. You must not fight with him."

Yang also anticipates familial disputes between his own sons, recognizing the divergent social backgrounds of his prospective daughters-in-law.

He asks them to acknowledge each others' characteristics, respect each other, and eat together to prevent conflict.

Considering the huge expectations laid upon them, women received a remarkable dearth of practical guidance in carrying their burden. Both letters indicate that men in the Ming-Qing era expected women to accomplish a great amount with very little guidance. Yang's instructions to his sons took up over six pages, while his instructions to his wife accounted for less than one page. Similarly, Gu remembers her husband's sparse final instructions: "…to be frugal with his funeral, to teach [his children] well so that [his children] can inherit his family's scholastic tradition, and to serve [his children's] grandfather with devotion to make up for his own untimely departure."

Different Genders

The posture and the objectives of the two letters reveal a great deal about gender differences in Ming-Qing China, especially in regards to parental roles. Yang seeks to teach his children life lessons and moral values, whereas Gu seeks to notify her sons of her achievements,… [read more]

Way We Never Were Stephanie Coontz Book Report

… Coontz Book

Stephanie Coontz's The Way We Never Were is a thorough, research-based explication of the role of the family in American social life. The book encompasses more than just family structure and gender norms, however. Coontz places the family within a political, sociological, and economic perspective. Issues like teen pregnancies, spousal abuse, and poverty are as woven into the fabric of American society as apple pie. Coontz accomplishes several core objectives with The Way We Never Were. For one, Coontz bases her assertions on copious facts. The statistics may at times be misleading or purposefully chosen, but are nevertheless meaningful. Secondly, Coontz is on a myth-busting mission. Based on the fact that conservative politicians are using false nostalgia as a means to emotionally manipulate voters, Coontz presents a more realistic picture of American society.

The Way We Never Were is divided into eleven chapters, each providing different facets of the American family and its role in the social consciousness. Coontz's thesis is evident early on, as the introduction to the book outlines the material to come. Coontz argues that American domestic life was never as charmed as it seemed. The myth of family values has been promulgated by politicians during the past few decades. In fact, families were in some ways more dysfunctional during the Leave it to Beaver days than they are now. Gender inequality, domestic violence, teen pregnancy, and shotgun weddings were all a part of the family values systems that characterized the good old days. Norms regarding domestic abuse and gender roles have changed for the better, not for the worse, notes Coontz.

The author devotes several chapters to describing how the role of the family has changed in American society. For example, Chapters 4 details the myth of self-reliant families and how that myth has created false ideology related to welfare and social services. Chapter 5 explains how the American nuclear family became an isolated entity, with disastrous consequences for community integrity. Coontz makes sure to point out the irony in the conservative stance on family values. Ills in American society such as violence and ennui can be blamed on and directly traced back to the 1950s -- the era usually held out as being the bastion of family values. Chapter 6 addresses a surprisingly relevant issue: privacy. The issue of privacy with regards to domestic and sexuality issues is a direct extension from the issues discussed in Chapter 5 about the increasing isolationism that characterizes the American family.

Coontz's argument is well-organized and supported with copious facts including marriage, income, and birth rate statistics. Although at times the…… [read more]

Immigrant in NY Interview Interview

… Interview: Chinese delivery man 'Charley' Liu came from China with his parents when he was ten years old. His parents currently own a Chinese restaurant that is mainly delivery-based. Liu has worked for the restaurant ever since he was old enough to stand at the counter. At first he helped clean the restaurant and worked in minor food preparatory activities; then he moved on to the status of delivery boy and occasional cook. His parents came to America for a better life. Although Charles considers himself fully assimilated to the United States, he says that because of his work for his parents, and growing up in a bilingual household, he still has strong ties to his home culture.

"Growing up in a Chinese household means growing up with a very strong family work ethic. Lots of my friends didn't think anything of skipping school or not pulling their weight at home, in terms of chores and things. But I was always needed at the restaurant. The restaurant was my afterschool activity and it was more demanding than any girlfriend, more important in my life than any group of friends. If the restaurant didn't succeed and people didn't eat, we didn't eat."

Liu added that another difference between Chinese and American culture was the Chinese view of childhood. "Younger people in the family -- I say younger, because this is also true of how I relate to my other family members, like my older brothers -- definitely have a lower place in the family hierarchy due to age. In Chinese culture, there is less of a sense of 'childhood' than in American culture. In Chinese culture, at least immigrant Chinese culture, children aren't given a free pass when it comes to learning about responsibilities. Being a child is about learning to be responsible from adults."

Liu said he didn't remember much about China, other than the anxiety that his family felt. His family came to America to seek a better life, economically, as well as more freedom. "Many of my father and mother's relatives are doing better back home than they would have ever dreamed possible, years ago. Some of them have cars, and all of them have more disposable income to buy what might be considered small luxuries, like better clothes and eating out. But my parents don't regret immigrating, because they say in a country that isn't free, all of those types of privileges can be very quickly withdrawn by the government."

The Chinese delivery business is a high-demand, low-profit industry, but the Liu family selected it because they said they wanted to own their own business and keep every penny they earned. As for many immigrant families, owning a business means the ability to work far more hours than the standard 9-5 shift. In the restaurant industry, every penny must be watched, which is why Liu has continued to work there, even while going to school. It is very common for immigrants to employ family members because family… [read more]

Good Life Term Paper

… ¶ … good life and what it means nowadays. In order to support the discussion we will summarize the ideas from two articles, compare and contrast them. The articles which are the subject of the present critique include Robert C. Solomon "Strategic planning -For the good life" and Joanne B. Ciulla "leisure and consumption."

Let us begin by summarizing Solomon's ideas. In his article, the writer points out to the importance which planning has in order to have a good life. Naturally, there are no universal coordinates which define life as being good, but normally people tend to appreciate things like family, friendship, romantic love, security, freedom, good health, wealth, etc. According to Solomon, much of the negative things which we have to deal with are the result not of bad luck or misfortune, but of merely bad planning (or no planning at all).

He underlines the fact that the core of the problem is to be found in the general mentality. People are taught to plan their careers and to support their expectations accordingly. Life planning might be limited to marriage and children and does not always work out for the best. Much of the disappointment that we need to face comes from our lack of will to prioritize our values and act in a manner which is most likely to lead us in a direction where they are fulfilled.

Planning a career might help us achieve a single goal (that is the professional one), but this does not mean that this factor exclusively represents the road to happiness. One might argue that life is completely unpredictable and therefore the mere thought of planning it is foolish. It is true that tragedies occur and this happens independently of our will (think about illnesses or death), but many things are not that unpredictable.

Life has been the same for ever. The communication means and technology are recording fast pace developments which leave us speechless, but the things and values which make people happy are the same. Solomon draws the attention to coordinates such as friendship, family life, time to enjoy it, a sense of fulfillment, the respects of one's neighbor and self-respect besides, good health and the "good things" that money will buy. Perhaps the most important consideration that the author makes is that chance does not simply happen. There are a lot of things that we could do in order to construct our lives in the desired direction. All we need to do is have a clear thought about what really makes us happy and then work in order to achieve them.

Ciulla on the other hand declares that leisure is "a special social experience which consists of activities that are freely chosen and good in themselves. In addition, leisure brings out what is best and most distinctive about being human- our abilities to think, feel, reflect, create and learn. We need leisure o develop wisdom." It is obvious that leisure means much more than having free time. It… [read more]

Nature or Nurture Men Term Paper

… Nature or Nurture: Men

Although author Dorothy Allison's short story, Two or Three Things I Know for Sure is not even one hundred pages long, it gives a brief, but detailed look into her life and her experiences. We learn… [read more]

Monogamy vs. Polygamy a Cross-Cultural Comparison Using the Values of Respect and Community Term Paper

… Monogamy vs. Polygamy in Different Cultures

Polygamy is still a relatively taboo subject within the United States. American culture is at odds with the idea of polygamy, even as the concepts of true love and personal excess run wild within social and cultural marketing and the American psyche. The most visible group that still has polygamous sects within the United States is the Mormons. This religion, at one time, focused on polygamy as a goal in mainstream believers, but has since given that up in favor of monogamous marriage practices. Yet polygamy among Mormon sects still exists today and represents an interesting lens with which to view this concept from the American perspective.

Polygamy is relatively commonplace in Saudi Arabia, where men can take up to four wives (Aarts and Nonneman, 2005). The cultural and community implications of this practice in Saudi Arabia are far different than those within certain Mormon sects in the United States. The Saudi culture of polygamy goes back thousands of years, and religiously, like the Mormon sects, polygamy is supported through scripture (Embry, 1987). Women's value in Saudi Arabia is quite different than that of Mormon women, although there exist some similarities that can be draw between the two polygamous cultures. In this way, women are seen as the lesser value gender.

From the standpoint of a polygamous culture, women have generally a lower societal value than men. Women cannot take multiple husbands, and in Saudi Arabia as well as in many Mormon sects, the wives are to be subordinate to their husbands at the risk of social ostracization or other harsher punishments (Ahmed, 1982). In places where children have a labor value, polygamy makes sense culturally as well as logically. But in the Saudi society, modern-day polygamists are a dying breed, existing as symbols of how higher status men were previously supposed to behave (Souryal, 1987). Polygamy is far too awkward and requires too much attention from the husband for many in the Saudi middle class to adopt the practice (Rugh, 1973). This is interesting because it shows that a sense of community is centered not on the number of wives and the family structure per se, but on the inclusion of the individual in their every day life and the practicality of their routines and their daily existence. Community, in Saudi Arabia, is affected by polygamy, and it is beginning to appear as though Saudi community ties are being established on the individual level, and come from defining an individual's value to…… [read more]

Racial Ideology of Latinas as Evidenced in Discourse Analysis Literature Review

… Racial ideology of Latinas / Lit. review

Racial Ideology of Latinas in Discourse Analysis

Racial Ideology of Latinas

Latina Discourse -- Fiction and Non-Fiction

In her book Borderlands: The New Mestiza (1999), author Gloria Anzaldua, a self-proclaimed "borderland Chicana," writes… [read more]

Feelings Towards Nature Reaction Paper

… ¶ … feelings towards nature and the factors which influence them. I come from a Chinese background and follow the doctrines of Buddhism. I like to keep myself updated about the latest news about our environment and make efforts to contribute in any way that I can. The current status of our natural resources is pretty bad. Humans have exploited them in all ways making it necessary to take strong steps to protect it. Environmental Pollution has risen to dangerous levels. According to Buddhism, the word "nature" refers to all parts of the world which are not man-made. However humans have destroyed the original form of nature in several ways. Pollution as we know it did not exist at the time when Buddhism was created. The industrial revolution along with the advent of other technologies has changed the face of wild nature as it was.

I believe that everyone should make an effort to contribute towards the recovery of nature as it used to be, a few centuries ago. The need for this to happen is a lot more than back then. The levels of air pollution have increased manifold. Planting more trees is certainly one way to go. Deforestation cannot be stopped completely as it fulfills the needs of our lifestyle. I believe that starting a revolution against deforestation would not work in the long run. There will always be some people who would keep doing it without thinking about its harms. Planting a tree is easy and anybody can do it. Everyone needs to make an effort to plant trees in the neighborhood around which they live. My family has a garden and I enjoy taking care of plants. I believe that spending some time in the garden is both physically and mentally satisfying. All it takes is tending to them for some time and regular watering. Plants can boost the aesthetic aspect of any house. An organized garden area provides a relaxing place for the family to get together. One does not need to have a garden to stay connected with nature. Not everyone can afford a house with their own garden area. It is easy to live in an apartment and stay involved with nature at the same time. Decorating rooms with plants can add a nice touch to its look.

My religious background and family are the main things which influence my feelings towards nature. Buddhism promotes a healthy relationship with nature as it provides us with most of our daily needs. It also teaches us to restrict ourselves to our needs and not our…… [read more]

Listening to Everyone's Stories, the Prejudice Powerpoint Essay

… ¶ … listening to everyone's stories, the prejudice powerpoint tour and reflecting on your own behavior and attitudes.

Discrimination is something all people come across during their lives and its intensity varies depending on the environment one lives in. Being part of a single parent family, from an Ecuadorian one living in the U.S., from an Asian community in the U.S., and basically having any kind of features associated with a group in particular are elements which can predispose a person's differentiation. Nonetheless, the fact that a person is discriminated does not exempt the respective person for displaying a biased behavior toward other individuals.

Society teaches people that it is likely for other people to behave similar to those in the community they frequent. People generally consider that it is wrong when a child is raised by a single parent and that because that particular child did not enjoy the opportunity of being educated by two adult individuals while at home, he or she will have less chances of developing into a balanced person. Whenever they come across someone with a background like this, people will try their best to interact with him or her as less as possible and when it is obligatory for them to do so they will treat that respective individual on account of their biased thinking with regard to the particular features he or she has.

Weight is essential for the way persons are perceived by those who they come across. When someone is dealing with weight problems, his or her capability to perform certain tasks will be determined by the members of the community he or she lives in. Concomitantly, this person can be influenced in believing that it is perfectly normal for them to be denied a series of privileges because of their physical appearance.

When an…… [read more]

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